You’ve heard it before. This is not anything new. But still you’re not following the advise of 100s maybe 1000s of illuminated ones.
Watch what you say to yourself and think about yourself. WHY Do you ask? I hope you do.
Your subconscious mind believes EVERYTHING you say and think.
I’m not going to try to prove this to you or give you any examples. The evidence is already overwhelming on a mental, physical and spiritual level. OVERWHELMING. It’s true. It’s fact. Believe it or don’t up to you. Here’s 10 things.
1. Never say “I have to lose some weight” Replace this with “I am getting rid of weight”
Why? Is losing things good? NO! Enough said.
2. Look in the mirror, LOOK IN THE MIRROR!!! And say “I Love You” 10 times, I dare you. Let me know what happens.
3. Never say “I can’t do this _________” Replace with “I presently struggle with ________ but I’m getting better at ___________all the time.”
4. Look for someone to help. Doesn’t matter who just get into service. Better if it’s someone you don’t like. Shoot for once a day.
5. Read 2 pages a day out of a book or a blog or something you would NEVER consider reading. Do it for 10 days and see what happens.
6. You know how everyone says, “If you don’t like something about someone it’s probably a mirror for something you don’t like about yourself.” Ya you know you’ve heard it and you probably said it too. Think about this for awhile, “If you DO like something about someone it’s probably a mirror for something you DO like about yourself.”
7. Don’t look at your cell phone when you’re with your kids – LOOK AT YOUR KIDS!!!
8. Just for 1 day only, 1 day drink half your body weight in ounces of water. So if you weight 200 drink lbs., 100 ozs of water. Just 1 day. Try it.
9. Give 10 compliments today.
10. When someone gives you a compliment tell them that they are correct!
Aloha!
Tony Robbins says that fear and anger are the two things that stop us all from moving forward to our bliss.
Joseph Campbell tell us to follow our bliss.
Mark Januszewski says the successful person SIMPLY does the things the unsuccessful person makes a conscious decision not to do.
Emmet Fox tells us we think something is too good to be true; but trouble never surprises us. We regret it, but we do not think it is to bad to be true.
How true and profound is that, Emmet Fox rocks that shit!!!! If I am successful in combining that and Joseph Campbell mixed with a little Haanel and The Master Key System and I’m good to go!!!
Ya so no wonder fear and anger stop us, we always believe that the bad is true. You’ve said it, I’ve said it, everyone has said it. It’s not a common saying for nothing. We never fail to believe “It’s to good to be true” and always believe that it’s not to bad to be true. So sad. When you hear bad news you don’t say “Oh that to bad to be true” right THINK about it….
No wonder we can’t follow our bliss, so much is in the way.
We must make a conscious decision to do the things that successful people do. We must control our thoughts.
The creator gave us control of only 1 thing!!! Think about it. There is only one thing we really have control over. Our thoughts. Don’t you think it’s pretty important if it’s the ONLY thing you really have control of. Duh if you don’t.
So the Seven Day Mental Diet goes on because I am determined to have control of my thoughts (most of the time anyway). Yesterday I found myself rehearsing a grudge in my head, this was old and I will NEVER see or speak to this person again and yet I am rehearsing some inane, fake conversation in my head on how I am going to tell this person off. HA! How ridiculous. So I stop myself and change my thoughts to the things that I want in my life. Like our upcoming visit from my daughter Jackie and Derek’s (Mark’s son) kids, our grandchildren. Dylan, Ali and Zoe. YEAH!!!!! So excited!!!!
There are so many things that I want in my life that it’s easy to change my mind and think of those instead. Mark always says it takes only 1/1 billionth of a volt to change my mind. Easy!
Then why is it so difficult to stay positive. I found out it’s practice, it’s habit. Just like the body if you work it it will get better. The mind is the same way, it’s just the most people don’t want to do the work.. make a conscious decision to do the work.
Well I’m doing it. Yesterday you would not have known that, we have the big G090Grow Launch today, plus a bout with PMS AND a couple of business partners that are not doing what they are supposed to do. That is a recipe for Davene to go off Lynn style and sadly I did. Ah well progress not perfection. Everyday and in every way I’m getting better and better.
The Seven Day Mental Diet does one thing for sure, it reminds me just how negative my mind and my mouth can be.
I watched Iron Lady last night and although that movie could have been a lot better, Streep deserved the Oscar. She portrays Margaret Thatcher, Prime Minister of The United Kingdom from 1979-1990 and the first woman Prime Minister. There is a scene where she is much older and is forced my her daughter to see a doctor. He is asking her alot of questions about how she feels. Her response is great, “People don’t think any more. They feel . . . D’you know, one of the great problems of our age is that we are governed by people who care more about feelings than thoughts and ideas.” She tells the doctor to ask her what she thinks and he does.
She goes on to say, “Watch your thoughts for they become your words. Watch your words for them become your actions. Watch your actions for they become your habits. Watch your habits for they become your character. Watch your character for that becomes your destiny. You are your thoughts.” Her father always said that she tells us. I may not have that exactly but it’s the close.
WOW!!!
Whether or not you agree with Margaret Thatcher’s political views everyone would have to agree that she stood up for what she believed and one of the things she believed was that your thoughts are what you become. And she certainly left a mark on history. I admire her for having the guts.
I’m a street kid from Lynn, MA, to survive that and 6 brothers you had to have guts, so I feel a little akin to Maggie and that makes me feel good about me, again because I admire her for standing up for what she believed, not necessarily WHAT she believed.
Anyway the movie helped me this week on my mental diet journey. AND I am going to need all the help I can get because we are launching Go90Grow on May 3rd!
Someone up there KNEW I was doing this, the reason I know this is there have been multiple challenges to my positive mental status. I will NOT bore you with the details because, as my wonderful husband, Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker, would say, “That would be giving power to the things I DON’T want to think about…”
The bottom line is that I didn’t stay positive for more that 1 day in a row
Actually one day I was so negative that I thought I was having an anxiety attach (I wasn’t). You see we are relaunching our phenom product Go90Grow and I realized that I thought it was 4 weeks away and it’s 2 weeks away AND on top of that they voted Colton off – how is that possible!!! No kidding… But what I can’t believe is the 52,000,000 people voted on American Idol and no once cares that our children are being polluted with Genetically Modified food. Now that’s negative. I am so disappointed by that fact the GMO not Colton.
Yes, and I am being negative about an entire population of an entire country – “redonkulous” as my daughter Dayna would say.
So I decided to get positive and do whatever I can to change the things that I don’t like… When to the website The Future of Food and got involved. I have vowed to spend 10 minutes each day doing my part to make our country a better place. And that feels good.
Now today I am going to re-start my 7 Day Mental Diet – I’m starving!!! Stayed tuned, leave a comment.
Aloha this wonderful morning. The picture out my window is astounding. It’s impossible for me to NOT believe that there is something bigger than me out there when I look at this beautiful world.
It’s funny that I decided to start The Seven Day Mental Diet on the day that I just wrote huge checks to the IRS. Paying taxes is NOT my favorite thing, I might go so far as to say I have disdain for this activity. Only because I am not so sure that these funds are going where they should. I don’t pay much attention to the news but I hear that members of Congress and Senators seem to take more than their fair share. When I write a check I like to know where the dough going and the checks I just wrote are a mystery to me.
Not being negative about that was tricky, but I think I did it.
During this challenge of attempting to be positive all the time, I am realizing my back slide of the last few months. The Go90Grow launch & a subsequent consulting job kept me busy and I slacked off. Things seemed to be going so well my subconscious decided I didn’t have to do the work anymore. HA! Wrong!!!
Generally I would read and meditate every morning and I have fallen off of that practice. Boy does it make a difference. So back on the meditation wagon. Can’t recommend it enough even if it’s just for 5 minutes – although I shoot for 15 of total silent meditation. It’s amazing what will happen.
One must believe there is a higher power in the universe, right. I mean can you really think human beings are the top of the food chain, no there IS a higher power. Something is out there right? Ya, for me there totally is. I know I am not the one in control. AND if I contact and harness the power for good, to be in service by controlling my thoughts, and then put that above all else. I can do anything with my life that I choose.
Divine Power, Higher Power, Divine Energy, Universal Energy, God, Father… For me God is just easier.
Over the years I have tried and tried to come into contact with this Power and I have found the only real way is through quiet, earnest meditation. Emmet Fox, the amazing author I was turned onto by my wonderful husband, Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker, tells me today to say “I believe in the power of God, I believe God is interested in me and that I can contact that Power to comfort me, heal me, enlighten me, purify me. I believe God is working through me to solve all.
I guess no one is reading my blog. Which I don’t blame you. I have not written anything in a long, long time and I did not have that many readers anyway.
I am a little disappointed that no one is joining me on The Seven Day Mental Diet.
That’s OK – I have to restart today anyway.
I bashed a couple of parents at the beach yesterday. I was enjoying myself with my wonderful husband, Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker. And everything was going along fine then I had to start passing judgement of these poor people that were just enjoying themselves on vacation in Kauai on a beautiful beach. So I gotta start again.
Then today I was going over some Go90Grow accounting – well just forget me being positive about that…. well for now. I presently struggle with accounting but I am getting better and better everyday.
The Amazing Jackie
So it’s not been a total success but I’m on my way to a grand and better life. Although to quote
my daughter Jackie, “Your life is a fairytale.” I have to agree but it’s going to get even better.
Yes, it’s been a long time since I wrote a blog. My husband, The World’s Laziest Networker, Mark Januszewski, he blogs all the time. He’s a excellent writer. Not an excellent speller, as so many like to remind him, but an excellent writer.
People’s need to judge someone on their spelling ability is a mystery to me. Oh yes they say, “It’s for your own good, people will think your stupid and unworthy if you don’t spell correctly.” So, they wrap themselves in virtue while they criticize. I’m not fooled.
Well guess what, I don’t give a crap about those people. They can just go on judging and not taking responsibility for their own lives. As long as your busy looking at everyone else you never have to look at your own junk.. And to quote a very wise character, who probably didn’t spell well, Forest Gump, that’s all I have to say about that.
So now after airing that for today, I start my 7 day mental diet. Living in a country obsessed with diets it’s amazing to me that virtually no one is interested in the mental diet.
Honestly I’m not sure I can do a 7 day mental diet. Make up my mind to devote one week solely to the task of building a new habit of thought, and during that week let everything in life be unimportant as compared with that. This will without a doubt change my life forever. Here’s the prescription if you’re interested in joining me.
For seven days I must NOT allow myself to dwell for a single moment on any kind of negative thought. I must watch myself for a whole week as a cat watches a mouse, and I must not under any pretense allow my mind to dwell on any though that is not positive, constructive, optimistic and kind.
This discipline will be so strenuous that I could not maintain it consciously for much more that a week.
A week will be enough, because by that time the habit of positive thinking will begin to be established. Some extraordinary changes for the better will come into my life encouraging and enormously, and then the future will take care of itself. The new way of life will be so attractive and so much easier than the old way that my mind will find my mentality aligning almost automatically.
Dieting, eating right and the most strenuous exercise are child’s play compared with the 7 day mental diet. If you join me you’ll see I am correct.
A WARNING: DO NOT START THIS LIGHTLY!!! Think about it for a day before you decide. Don’t let this be one of those many, many things you start and never finish.
The whole idea is to have seven days of unbroken mental discipline in order to get the mind definitely bent in a new direction once and for all.
If you do start and for any reason “fall off” the mental wagon. Drop the diet altogether for a few days, and then start again fresh.
So what is not positive thinking you may ask, that’s easy. Any thought of failure, disappointment, trouble of any kind, criticism, cynicism, spite, jealousy sickness, accident any kind of limitation or pessimistic thinking. Any thought that is not positive or constructive in character, whether it concerns you or anyone else. But don’t worry to much about this, you’ll never have any trouble figuring out whether a thought is negative or positive. Even if you brain tries to deceive you, your heart will whisper the truth.
When a negative thought enters your mind immediately turn to something positive. Have something ready, some happy memory or some dream you wish to achieve think of that instead. For more info on this if you are a member of Go90Grow do the Think and Grow Rich Challenge. If not definitely check out the course, there are a bunch of testimonials on this page Go90Grow. It’s a life changer!!!
I highly recommend turning off the TV, avoiding all the negative people in your life. You know you can simply get up and leave if you want to. Take responsibility for yourself and do what’s best for you!
Emmet Fox’s cinder analogy may help. A man is sitting by a fire, a cinder lands on his sleeve. If he knock it off at once, without a moments delay to think about it, no harm is done. If he allows it to rest on him for a single moment, under any pretense, the mischief is done. So is it with a negative thought. You would NEVER let a cinder burn you, you’d jump to brush it off yet you’ll let negative thoughts burn giant holes in your life. Think about it…
If you are in earnest and wish to join me just comment below. Let us know when you’ll begin, if you fall off, when you’ll restart – it helps us all so much to share.
I would love the hear your progress and ups and downs to help me along my path. Just bookmark this page or subscribe to the blog and come back and let me know how your doing!
Mahalo and Aloha from Kauai,
Davene
It’s been a very long time since I blogged and I miss it.
Since Andy Rooney announced his retirement the other day on 60 minutes I have been thinking alot about writers and writing.
Andy says he loved being a writer, and I believe him. Usually to become so successful at something it’s important to love as least some aspect of what you are doing. I believe that anyway.
The enjoyment in blogging, and blogging is just writing, is for me a sort of unloading. Unloading of ideas of feelings or even some (I hope) wisdom. After 47 years on this planet I hope I have some wisdom.
Reading the Master Key System everyday leads me to a lot of ideas I’d like to blog about…. but I don’t. To busy, to tired to whatever is going on. I will digress here. My time disappears, my days disappear and I don’t know what happens. Before I know it it’s 5 PM and I’ve been at something all day. I can’t imagine if I worked full time and had to run my home I’d be so stressed out. I feel for all of you who have to do that. I think I probably work 10 hours a day and I forget that, I just wish there was more time to do all the things I want to do.
OK so I read the Master Key System everyday, mostly, and Haanel, the author, quotes all kinds of people I have never heard of and he quotes them as if I should.. and maybe if I was born at the turn of the century, the last one not this one, I would know who them. So he quotes this guy Herbert Spender. Mr. Spender says, “Amid all the mysteries by which we are surrounded, nothing is more certain than that we are ever in the presence of an Infinite and Eternal Energy from which all things proceed.”
This is pretty progressive thinking from my point of view.
But this guy was born in 1820, not 1920, 1820. This stuff is old. These ideas are really, really old so why is “The Secret” a best seller? And I’m not picking on that book, there are alot of them saying all the same thing. Tony Robbins, Dwayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn just to name a few. These people and many, many others have made fortunes and careers out of material that is all there for you anytime, you don’t have to dig and it’s all free. It baffles the mind.
It begs the question, why do people shell out hundreds and thousands of dollars on this stuff? Year after year after year, after decade after decade, on and on. And I’ll bet ya the people who bought “The Secret” have bought a whole lot of other books, CD, DVDs, courses you name it and nothing has changed.
There is a fundamental flaw in everything that’s out there, it doesn’t address the fact that your human and 95% of you are not going to do the work unless you have tons of support. They just tell you what to do they don’t tell you how to do it.
We’re on the path we’re on, our life is our life because we made it that way. If you don’t like it you have to get up off you keister and do something about it. If you read the sentence again and get it, really get it you have a chance.
Just change your mind.
Mark and Davene in Kauai
Oh ya, that what they all say. So What!!
That’s what I’d be thinking. Well I know that’s the correct answer because I did it! Here I am living my dream on the beautiful, magical island of Kauai. All I did was think it.
OK so back to Mr. Spender then I’ll give you 3 Things to do right now. He says livingness is a matter of degrees. People think matter is dead, the chair your sitting in, the carpet, the light. Well it’s not. As a matter of fact the atoms in those thing are moving pretty fast. There is no denying this, any scientist will tell you that.
So this stuff is alive. So livingness is a matter of degree. The lamp is alive, a plant is alive, a dog is alive and you are alive. All equally alive.
So what’s the difference?
It’s a matter of intelligence. Higher or lower. Lamp not so high, you I hope higher than the plant. Although I know some people….. no we don’t need to go there.
Mr. Spender, and just about every other quantum scientist alive today says in so many words, “Amid all the mysteries by which we are surrounded, nothing is more certain than that we are ever in the presence of an Infinite and Eternal Energy from which all things proceed.”
We all proceed from the same energy, Infinite Energy or Intelligence. Infinite Intelligence. You are a part of that, we all are. What’s my point? You are Infinite Intelligence – you already are it – you already have everything you need, you already know everything you need to know. All you have to do is change your mind about who and what you are and don’t let anything into your mind that is not in alignment with what you want.
If you want a happy, peaceful, joyful, abundant life use your Infinite Intelligence and don’t watch the housewives of New Jersey. Don’t let your kids (or your husband) play games where they kill spiders or zombies or they kill anything, anything at all don’t even kill something fake, don’t watch things being killed even if it’s “just a movie or TV show”. And that’s just the tip of the proverbial iceberg. I mean what do you expect if you are inviting negative influence into your life. Really what do you expect. That’s 1.
Don’t talk smack about anyone, not even if you think they stabbed you in the back. (Except the Yankees, you can talk smack about the Yankees). Don’t give your opinion about anything, what the hell do you know? Is your life perfect? No, so shut your pie hole. That’s 2.
Just so you know I am talking to myself here to, so if your offended get over it.
You are Infinite Intelligence, you are perfect exactly right now in the moment and every moment. Change your mind, do the work it takes and change your mind.
What work you say, how do I do it? I’ve bought and read a bunch of books I’ve been to the seminars, and spent tons of cash and got no results.
I know it’s not easy, I know you need help and support, I know you need a “fellowship” of like minded people to help you, cheer you, I know you need competent facilitation. That’s why we run the “Master Key Mastermind Alliance Course”. We know everyone need helps to change their mind. You’ll lose some people and things when you change your mind and that’s not easy, but it will have to be done.
Once we run the Master Key Mastermind Alliance again you can take it (click the link to get on the waiting list) but for now find some like minded people and talk about helping each other get closer to your goals, what you really want and who you really are. That’s 3. Do these 3 things now, just get started.
Unfortunately I am more familiar with the ways you CAN’T succeed in Multi Level Marketing or Network Marketing or Viral Marketing or whatever is the popular term now-a-days.
The ways you CAN’T succeed! Why would some write about the ways you can’t succeed. I’ll tell you.
Because they are much more abundant that the ways you can succeed.
This needs no commentary if you don’t know why that won’t work do me and you a favor and sell your stuff and quit.
Buying Magic Systems – that’s number 2.
MLM systems that promise you that people will go to your site or video and sign up for your program are bullshit – just face it and cancel that $14.95 a month site. It’s NOT going to revolutionize the industry. All you’re doing is putting money in the pocket of the person who sold that crap.
Secrets – this is number 3
Secrets Won’t Build Your Business!!! If someone is telling you they are going to give you the “secrets” to build your business run the other way.
You just have to find the right people – that’s number 4
It’s bull the right people are everywhere. Ask yourself these questions.
Do you know anybody who wants more money?
Do you know anybody who wants more time?
Do you know anybody who would like to pay less taxes?
Duh! Yes Everybody!
So what are you offering? More money, more time and less taxes.
Now ask yourself why do 80% say “no” to you.
You’re saying the wrong thing, that’s why.
So in a few weeks we’ll be releasing the video series Go90Grow and it’s going to show you the right things to say so you get “yes” 80% now.
I’m devastated, I’m crushed, I’m so upset, my life is so hard, why me…. and on and on and on. Many times I have said such things. I have heard these phrases and versions of them tons of times from others. And after last night I feel sick to my stomach at the massive amount of ungratefulness, irresponsibility and ingratitude of myself and actually in alot of humanity in general.
But there are some excpetions. We hear about them all the time, the heros. We don’t hear enough about them but we do hear about them.
Anuradha Koirala, Pilot Chesley Sullenberger, Firefighters from 911, all Firefighters if you ask me, there is a long list of inspirational heros, very long list. And I am sorry we don’t hear more about them.
Maybe we don’t and there aren’t hero stories all over the news instead of a person like Charlie Sheen because we are ashamed of ourselves. Why do we put sick, sad, unfortunate people all over the news. Lindsay Lohan, Britanny Spears, Kardasians, The Housewives what is wrong with us. I think we put these people all over the media and they get paid millions of dollars because they make us look “not so bad” in comparison. I don’t have any other rational explanation.
Why the tyraid?
Last night we say the movie “Soul Surfer” the true story of Kauai resident and Pro Surfer, Bethany Hamilton.
I give this movie my highest recommendation. Must see, absolute must see. You can also see why we moved here from Boston, just how georgous this island is.
This girl is amazing! AND she lives right in my back yard. I can’t wait to bump into her, Chelsea my step-daughter already has at the store she works at Papayas. I just want to tell her thanks. Thanks for being so brave, strong and full of faith in herself and what she believes.
I was a little worried about seeing the movie because I didn’t want a “Jaws” syndrome. Living in Kauai and being in the water is one of my great joys. Now I feel so foolish for being such a baby about that. I will never, never fear the water or what’s in it. Will I be careful, always, but not fearful.
Today I have gratitude for the tiny amount of work I have done on myself so I can truly appreciate the amazing girl. Not just tell myself, “Wow she’s such an inspiration” and then never do anything to honor is beautiful spirit. I WILL BE BETTER BECAUSE I WAS EXPOSED TO THIS MIRACLE. Now when adversity stikes I take the opportunity to be better, to do better, to be of more service, to see the greatness it what seems to be a bad thing.
The Master Key Mastermind Alliance has made such a huge impact on my life and I am grateful I did it. Nothing compared to Bethany but it’s something.
