This is No Way to Achieve Your Dream

angry-customer-phoneI see we are going through another lead scraper, phone broadcaster things – bullcrap system again…..  I can’t stand those scraper things. That Is No Way To Achieve Your Dream

Again, really……  I’m getting these total garbage messages everyday.  I judge, yes I do.

“Take massive action” – “Next billion dollar company” – “We taking the industry by storm” – “The next top earner hasn’t even gotten in yet” – Really?

Please give me a break, you people have been shoveling the same shit for the last 40 years.

It is very hard for me to believe that network marketers, multi-level marketers, relationship marketers (that one makes be throw up a little), online marketers.ThrowUpLarge  Whatever the hell we are calling ourselves these days..  It’s hard for me to believe that you guys are falling for this one again.

Please, I implore you, ask yourself the following question.  This is the question you SHOULD be asking yourself, not should I buy this lead system for $250 or $29.95 a month.

Here we go.

If the average person knows somewhere between 1500 – 2000 people (don’t give me that bullshit, it’s a fact)

OK – if the average person knows between 1000-1500 (happy I lowered it, try this skill) people and they tried to build a business prospecting people they know and/or who love them AND those people didn’t respond to what they had to say –  WHY, In the name of all that is good, do you think that strangers are going to respond any better???!!!

Can someone answer that question for me, please?  If you have something to say about my blog, please grow some “Schmessticals” to leave a comment.  Or shoot me a message if you’re chicken.

Buying leads in any form is NOT for the majority of people.  The vast majority.

OK, here is when you CAN purchase some whatever lead system from someone.  Who is, BTW, probably disguising it as a training.

First – have a 6 month to 1 year bankroll (you’ll see why in the second point)

Second – prepare to spend 80 hours a week on the phone pitching strangers and plugging away on Social Media (Yes, I said 80 hours or 2 people at 40 hours a week)

Third – grow a very thick skin, very thick.  If you are the type of person who takes things personally, this is most people, then this will be very difficult.  You will need alot of psyching up and cheer leading.

Fourth – Most importantly!  If you have NOT build an authentic burning desire, centered around your personal pivotal needs,  you are dead in the water.  Dead!  If you don’t know what I am referring to then don’t even attempt this foolhardy business.

So, if those 4 things are firmly in place then you can possibly make something happen in about 1 year.  Good luck to you – I really do wish you the best.  It can be done.  We’ve done it. But you better be prepared to kiss alot of frogs.


You could learn some skills – learn WHAT TO SAY to people so you get more of them to say “yes” and as a result build a solid business based on people who know what to do, what to say and how to teach this duplicating machine.  Real duplication where everyone is doing the same thing.  Isn’t the point of the business, to teach others what to do so they can do it without you?

Not what some bullcrap leader tells you is duplication, it’s easy to discern if you look.  They are either all doing the same thing or they are not.

This is a concept that our industry has not embraced, thus the extremely obvious stats.

16 Million people do mlm and it’s a $30 Billion industryth-1

728,000 people do Franchising and it’s a $3.3 Trillion (Trillion with a T) industry.

Essentially franchising is 100 times more successful than MLM – gee I wonder if we should try “all doing it the same way” – duh….

But you do the math.

Gee, what would be easier for you – bang my head against the wall 80 hours a week contacting leads or learning what a $3.3 Trillion industry does.  Hmmmmm.. that a tough one.

Listen to me, I know from where I speak.  I was a top sales person in a top dealership selling cars 65 hours a week.  Honda North, Danvers, MA, what’s know as a Presidential Dealership.

Try to imagine selling 20-25 cars a month, think about that for a second.

You are standing in a dealership, or if you are like me, you are standing out on the lot in the hot sun, the rain or the snow, waiting for people to come and tell you, “Oh we’re are only looking today”.  Can you imagine being a car sales person.

Guess what?

It was easier than trying to build a business by pitching leads, much easier.

The people walking into the dealership were coming to me.  I was not calling them and pitching them or driving over to their house in a car I was hoping they would buy.

It’s not about leads, systems, the company, the plan or, Goodness forgive me, your precious product.  IT’S ABOUT YOU!

If you don’t change what you are doing and saying and mostly WHO YOU ARE nothing will change in your business or your life.

It’s really about what it going on in your subconscious.  What do you believe about yourself?  What do you believe you deserve?  That’s all it about, which is far to big to get into here, but if you are interested the MKMMA course starts in a few weeks.  Oh yea, it’s free.

But I will tell you that if you have this part right it won’t matter who you talk to – your business will build.

The bottom line?

Stop falling for these crappy, leads selling, scam artists and learn how to be a professional networker who understands their worth.

All the skills you need are available for free at The World’s Laziest



1 Sure Fire Way to Achieve Your Dreams – Master Key System Online

We are getting ready to re-launch the Master Key System Online. I’ll explain how it’s the way to achieve your dreams.

The amazing, brilliant course put together by my genius husband Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Newtorker.

So been reading the Master Keys outloud for the last couple of weeks to get ready for the re-launch. Let me tell ya, it’s been an eyeopener, AGAIN!th

I completed the Master Keys System Online back in 2009.

We were living in Haverhill, MA in a very old, 2 family house. We actually had to ask the tenant to move out because the house was so badly damaged by termites. The damage was hidden and not discovered during the inspection. The entire place was falling apart. Don’t let the realtor be in charge of the inspection, just a side note.

So we’re living in the nearly condemned house, loss of tenant income, MLM biz falling apart, debt mounting, kids acting out, aging parent issues, etc. etc. Then SLAM the worst news yet – a very serious health issue!

Holy crap, I’m supposed to move to Kauai in June of 2012. I’ve been reading this on my DMP for over a year. Now this!

95% of the people will say to themselves, “Well that’s it. I’ll never get to Kauai now”, “I’m in my late forties my husband nearly 60 it’s over 🙁 “It’s impossible”.

That was NOT my reaction. Mahalo for The Master Key System Online!

I thought, OK great, now it’s even more important to get to Kauai fast because it will make a difference with the health issue. Fresh organic product, readily available and inexpensive. Lots of fresh fish, calm, stress free environment and this beautiful amazing weather and vistas!

Really that’s what I thought, why did my mind go there immediately?

Because I went thru the 26 weeks of the Master Keys Course.

It’s a life changer – this is not one of those hypie, motivational, guru bullshit statements – The Master Keys Mastermind Alliance Course is a life changer!

Less than 1 year, after receiving the shocking news, a full 2 years before we expected.

We have achieved our dream of living in Kauai, we created an entirely new 7 figure business for ourselves, 3 of our 4 children live here now, Mom lived here for a year with us, Tommy the beloved English Setter made it too. Health is better than ever, we flew the grand kids over for a 6 week vacation, successful Go90Grow Live Event here in Kauai (another achieved dream) and the list of overflowing blessings goes on. But even I’m getting a little like “Whoa are you kidding me that’s a miracle. That can’t be true…” but it is 🙂

Here’s the kicker! I had nothing to do with this happening. All I did was follow the directions in the Master Keys System Online. Things fell into place of their own accord. Daily miracles and circumstances but only when I decided to rigorously stay in harmony. And let me tell you its simple, very, very simple. Anyone can do it. Not easy, but simple.

So if you really want to achieve your dream, it’s possible by doing the work and with the Master Key Mastermind Alliance Course.
Aloha and Mahalo,

Why the MLM Gurus and Icons Hate The World’s Laziest Networker

Saw this picture on Facebook today ~ we all see these types pictures and quotes all the time. Usually posted by Network Marketers, Internet Marketers or Multi Level Marketers trying to get you to buy something or opt for something, right.  Ironically not this person though.  🙂

If I could figure out why this is so popular I’d be as smart as Zuckerberg himself.

Social Media seems more a place to pontificate with famous people quotes and political ravings. Although I have to say I believe that sites like Facebook could make a real difference in the world if everyone would use it to spread the word about the injustices in the world – but don’t just inform; offer a solution!!!

This picture and quote is a perfect example.

Great, talk to the elephant ~ thanks alot for the advise but how the hell do I do that?

My hope is that when you see these silly posts that you take action and find out how to accomplish this feat or other.

But how much better would the world be if the instructions on how to talk to the elephant were included or how to make your attitude determine your altitude… or some other wonderful useless quote.

And those that rant about Obama, GMO (me), Taxes or the myriad of issues used to distract us from the truth. When you post one of these things that outraged you; a solution must be included. You have to also post some kind of solution…. It should be the law of social media. No ranting or complaining without a equal opportunity to do something about it.

Anyway back to the Elephant.

Ya, ya people are always spouting off about your attitude, your goals, your why, be positive, on and on and on but no one and I mean NO ONE give you any solution.

No one gives you the directions of HOW to achieve this great attitude we are all supposed to maintain. Especially all those Gurus and Icons that hate The World’s Laziest Networker.

So why do they ‘hate‘ the World’s Laziest Networker?

Well, they probably don’t ‘hate‘ him…’s more about ‘human nature’…..people tend to not like what they do not understand……it’s the basis for prejudice, eh?

Maybe they are just doing what they were taught and the don’t realize that people need the directions, the skills.  But the real problem people, the, ahem, gurus peddling ‘secrets’ have with the Laziest Networker is 2 fold.   First, he makes it clear that there are not really any ‘secrets’ and, secondly, you can build a big, big business very part time.

See, some MLMers cannot understand, so they decide to ‘not believe’ that you can build a big business in under 12 hours a week.   Period.   This means someone who has done OK income-wise but worked full time to get there would have to admit there is a better way.   Ut-oh…..that means the ‘secrets’ don’t hold water and that’s not so good if you are in the secret selling business.

I know, because I saw it happen, several times, one can easily build this business to gangster money very part time once they believe that is true and learn the mindset [no, not some ‘feel good’ POP motivational nonsense], and the skills.   That is a 1-2 punch I saw developed, defined, refined and work…..for him, myself and 1000s that ‘get it’.

The suffering with MLM, leads, politics inside groups, fear, and doubt can end as soon as you decide there must be a better way and surrender to the simple idea of embracing a 4000 year old truth…..

THINK!  Think to when you were a kid and the future seems unlimited.  Today, most people have lost that spot.   You’ve got to get back to that spot, to that moment you believed your future was going to be incredible……because, within that spot is something very special.   Access to a power that will virtually manifest thoughts on demand.  I know, I’ve seen this happen over and over and over again……and NO…..this is not ‘self help’ feel warm and fuzzy stuff.  You have to know where this power is,  how to access it, claim it and use it.

For most people this seems like ‘Aladdin Lamp’ nonsense but I can assure you this is the reason people tend to be highly critical of this Lazy Networker thing.   You’ll discover, if you really look and experience the MKMMA [it’s a free course, don’t worry, not pitch coming], that no one who goes through it doubts the power and ability to create change on demand.

Not so easy in this world that is telling you, with every single opportunity it gets, that you are NOT good enough. Not smart enough, not skinny enough, not pretty enough. DOWN WITH DISNEY!!! Princesses suck! Prince Charming only cares about one thing if you know what it mean! That’s reality! And in such a crazy whirlwind reality, with 1000 things screaming at you from all directions, you need the instructions, the direction, and answers on how to get this wonderful positivity attitude that everyone is supposed to have already….. ya right.

So, here we are.  A defining moment for you.   Go with the ‘gurus and icons’ view of stuff or investigate …   And that word free is another problem so people have who feel they are in competition with Mark, The World’s Laziest Networker.   How can he keep giving all this stuff that actually works, away, free?   More prejudice 🙂  That kind of thinking make it clear, once you learn and apply the Master Key System the way he teaches it……why success will never come from people leveraging inexperience & fear, selling secrets or leads.

So I am tired of all the rhetoric and mindless spouting and ranting and I have some solutions for you. If you take the FREE Master Key Mastermind Alliance course you get the answers you yearn for, locate the power to manifest and learn the simple truth behind all self sustaining success.

I Make Dreams Come True

How can I make such a statement!

I’m telling you I know how to do it!

Here’s the thing, my husband Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker created a version of Think and Grow Rich just for people involved in Network Marketing or Multi Level Marketing or Home Based Business – whatever you call it.

Well I took his course, sort of a guinea pig, and I did what he told me to do.

I didn’t decide which was the best way for me to do it, I just did what I was told.  I don’t do that very often.

You see I was your typical MLMer, I didn’t want to follow rules or take suggestions because I think I’m smarter that everyone else.  Like a lot of MLMers I know.

There are the types that say my husband is wrong, that he calls himself The World’s Laziest Networker and says that MLM is NOT a numbers game.  Oh that horrible, telling people the truth.  IT’S NOT A NUMBERS GAME.

Hey if they want to recruit tons and tons of people, like some MLMer who recruits 10o’s of people, well that’s great but guess what!!!   The everyday MLMer can’t do that!!!

Most of us can’t possible recruit that many people AND if we did there is no way we could do justice to all those people and be of service to them and truly help them build their business.

Ya, if you want to do it that way go ahead, but don’t tell everyone who doesn’t do it that way that they are wrong.  Because we’re NOT wrong – the proof is in the print out people.  Just take a little closer look and see who if they are building leaders, not 1 or 2 people who are hitting it 14 hours a day, but real leaders that are helping their people build REAL teams.  It doesn’t take that close of a look believe me.

So back to business, so I do the course my brilliant husband created.  And here we are 3 years later, on June 30th, and I’m living my dream.


First moved to Kauai, I live in paradise, my paradise!  Mark, Me and my Mother in law – if you saw my life 3 years ago you’d have said that there was NO WAY we were moving to Kauai.  And 2 years earlier that I expected.

IMG_6752Then daughter number 1 Chelsea shows up with Tommy (Mark’s very sweet and beloved English Setter)

Chelsea is now the GM of Papayas, the largest non franchise store on the island!   She’s amazing, so passionate about providing safe, healthy, organic food to the people of Kauai!  I could write an entire blog about this amazing kid.

Then daughter number 2 shows up, Jackie my youngest.  She hits the ground running and is now the GM of Heart Flame Bakery, the biggest vegan, gluten free bakery on Kauai.  Holy wow what’s going on.

IMG_0212Now yesterday June 24, 2013 daughter number 3, my older daughter Dayna and her intended Jason are here!  The best part for me was the hug my daughters gave each other when the came together after not seeing each other for a year.  Ah, so sweet for Mommy.

I can’t wait to see what Dayna and Jason accomplish!

I dreamed of having Go90Grow members here in Kauai for  Live Event.  I dreamed that the kids would be involved and help us serve our members, ANOTHER DREAM CAME TRUE!!!  I didn’t even realize it until it happened – I see both girls there helping our members being of service to us and them, and it hit me right in the moment, I lost it right there in the meeting room a few minutes before the meeting started, oh my goodness it’s sweet to make your dreams come true.  Here’s a place when the word AWESOME is appropriate.  It was!

Go90Grow Network Marketing SkillsThe first Go90Grow Live Event was a smashing success, best of all many of the people who attended are growing.   Their businesses are growing and the lives are getting better and better because they were here.  A DREAM COME TRUE FOR ME.



IMG_0047We’re here in paradise all the girls are here – now for Derek and his 3 amazing kids.  They’re next on my list!

So I’m telling you right now that Mark is RIGHT – this course gets it done.  There are 2 days left to change your life forever.  Get Go90Grow today!




Number 1 Error In The Network Marketing Industry

Ours is a great industry and it’s true that you can make enough in just 8-10 hours a week to take the pressure off, save for college, buy a house, breathe, even retire if you’re really willing to help some people.

If ,ONLY ONLY IF, it’s done correctly.  I know it and I’ve done it and I’ve helped tons of others do it.  I know it’s the very best option out there for the person who wants to do the work.  It’s the Perfect Business.

It’s the Perfect Business – our Network Marketing Business.  But it’s time for a change!

At about 2:20 in this video is your answer.  The number 1 error in the network marketing industry.  An absence of true leadership.

When I first joined MLM back in 1995 I was a broke, scared single mom with two little girls.  I couldn’t afford cable so I watched this movie every night on my 11 inch TV.   I didn’t see it until my wonderful husband Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker pointed this scene out to me.  Now it’s very clear.

There is so little water in our industry.  We have ego, greed, lies and an abhorrent lack of true leadership.

Don’t take my word for it, just ask yourself, what is the most maligned industry on the planet?

You got it Network Marketing or Multi Level Marketing.  Right?

And yet people continue to join in droves.  Ask your self why – it doesn’t make any sense.  Why?

They join because they know in their hearts that it’s the last vestibule of real independence in business for the everyman or everywoman.


You are at the mercy of the ego, greed and shameful lack of true leadership and you believe the sand is water.  Here’s some water for those of you who are trying to build but can’t seem to get anywhere.

The reps, distributors, owners, or whatever your company calls the peeps, are pegged as a rapid market.   The market is actually thirsty not rapid.  But the peddlers don’t care which it is, they just know that there is very little training, leadership, support for you so they can pitch the sand you’ll buy it because you’re so thirsty and you’ve never been shown the difference.

This is why the “gurus”, “icons”, lead peddlers, system peddlers and downright bottom of the barrel “trainers” can sell their wares at leisure.  Because no one is giving the reps any water.  So the drink the sand, alot of times it’s old dirty sand that never really worked anyway.  Yes it’s redundant and it’s for a reason.

It’s hard for me to imagine that some are in such deep denial about what they are doing and who they are hurting.

Johnson and Johnson doesn’t care that they poison us.  The Rockefeller Foundation, that pretends to be philanthropic, has actually done more harm to more people that any other corporation on the planet.    Even Kashi, which we think is a “natural”, “healthy” company supports Monsanto and the poisoning of an entire hemisphere.  The list goes on and on and on.

So why Davene, why do you believe that the “leaders” and “corporations” in our industry would care either.  From my experience most don’t and I continue my battle cry – if you want to make some money you need to learn the skills.

This blue personality that I have sometimes feels like a burden, I’m striving to stay positive and happy but when I see really nice people, who are honestly trying to build, get smacked down over and over in the name of ego and fear I need to vent a little.  So that’s what I’m doing.

I’m sure there are lots of people out there in MLM/Network Marketing who do care – I know there are and I applaud you as I do the good, caring leaders of other industries – but I’m drowning under those who care more about volume, money, selling junk and their own egos.

Ours is a great industry and it’s true that you can make enough in just 8-10 hours a week to take the pressure off, save for college, buy a house, breathe even retire if you really want to help some people!  If it’s done correctly.  I know it and I’ve done it and I’ve helped tons of others do it.  I know it’s the very best option out there for the person who wants to do the work.  Yes I’m repeating myself – It’s the Perfect Business.

Aloha & Mahalo,


1 Great Network Marketing Skill for You

Last blog was a rant.  I admit it.  I just get so sad and disappointed by people.  All the time… why can’t they act the way I want them to?

I guess we all get let down, and I’m certain that I let people down too – I’m certainly not unique.

But it gets me to wondering, am I the one who’s crazy.  Why are so many acting the opposite of what I believe is right and true?earth

Then I remember things like; there are probably 4 Billion people on the planet who think I’m nuts for believing what I believe.  Some even hate me for it and would like to slit my throat of they had the chance.  And I certainly abhor alot of the things that happen in this world that others believe is right and good.

So then I think, “OK so I’m not crazy, we just don’t all agree.”  Well on some things I just can’t buy that, I just can’t.

Dishonesty in business for instance.  Yes I know it’s Pollyanna to think that all business people will be honest.

There is one great Network Marketing Skill, life skill really, that may help if you struggle with this as I do.

I figured out a long time ago that people don’t act the way I do.  It was a hard lesson for me.  Alot of us believe that others will behave the way we will.

Liars think everyone lies.  Untrustworthy people don’t trust anyone.  Nice people think everyone is nice.  Honest people believe others are honest.  Take note of this in life it will help you to know who is who.

Just because I believe that lying to prospects, and worse teaching your reps to lie, and not helping your new people is despicable doesn’t mean that others believe that too.

Just because I think it’s wrong to lie because you’re lazy doesn’t mean everyone thinks that’s bad.  Some people can convince themselves that it’s OK to do that – I don’t know maybe they have resentments and justify their behavior.  I’m sure I have done that in the past.

There’s this quote in the Bible, “The slothful man saith there is a lion in the street who will destroy him”  So he’s lazy and uses fake excuses so he doesn’t have to step out.  There is no lion out there you’re just too lazy to get up off the couch, stop watching Housewives and do something useful with your friggin life!!

nmIt’s is impossible for me to get past the laziness and lack of integrity in our industry today.  And that’s ironic because my wonderful husband Mark Januszewski is “The World’s Laziest Networker“.   He got that handle not because he’s lazy but because he always worked his Network Marketing biz in 16 hours a week or less – FULL TIME.  That’s because he know the right way to do it, and that’s what we’re trying to teach people with Go90GrowNetwork Marketing Skills!

Like Billy Bean knows how to run a baseball team with one of the smallest budgets in the MLB.  He has the skills that are contrary to most in his industry, like my husband.  Oakland on top AGAIN!  I digress….

I look online and I see all these fake leaders and gurus who never did anything, or hit it big once a long, long time ago.  They are selling junk.  The thing that really gets me is that if you just scrape a little of the top you can see that they are not telling you the truth – and no one bothers to ask, “Hey, what have you done lately?”

Sure some made money, but when and how?  Most don’t have a clue what they are doing and hit it right.  Good for them I say, I wish it happened for me that way.   We had to build brick by brick, everytime.  We didn’t bring anyone with us when we went to a new company.  There is no integrity in that!   Do me a favor please look at someone before you give them your hard earned money or follow them into the “Next Billion Dollar Company” but we’ve been over that already.

There’s reps saying they’re “icons” and made like a gizaillion.  Well good for you, but it was 10, 20 or 30 or more years ago and never build anything since leaving the company.  And tell me this, if they’re were making so much $$ why did they leave – and where’s the gizallion?!  Why are they building another company or selling something if they made all that dough?  I believe these are fair questions and there may be some out there who have good answers but I haven’t found one yet.

And another “icon” who has a new book, system and philosophy every 6 months or so and tons of people fall for it – they buy this crap when the thing he sold before it didn’t work!!!

Why doesn’t anyone ask these simple questions?

Why do people continue to do things that don’t work, why do they continue to behave the same why when it doesn’t make them happy???einstein

Einstein and Thoreau said the two things that explain some of it for me:

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

So all I can do is set a good example and try not to be insane, live with integrity and mostly try not to hurt others when I’m mad at them!

Mahalo & Aloha,
The Fabulous Davene




Number 1 Way To Live Your Dream

You see all the quotes on Facebook about living your dreams.   Speaking of dream quotes, the best one I ever heard was Quincy Jones he said, “If you can be discouraged from living your dream then you should be.”

I just love that one.

You hear it and see it all the time.  “If you do what you love you’ll never work a day in your life”.  “Do what you love and the money will come”.  “Be happy first and success will follow”.   Essentially improve yourself, but they never tell you how.

Although all of these are true you may ask yourself, or if you’re like me, you may wonder, “OK so how do I find out what I love to do, because I have no f’ing idea what it is.”

That was a big question of mine for years, I don’t really know what I love.  And if you grew up like me, in a crazy home, I mean really crazy then, I believe, that question is even harder to answer.

If you are one of the lucky ones, like my wonderful husband Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker, and had this great childhood.  Even though his Dad was tragically killed in the Koren whatever it was, he knew from a very young age who and what he was.  He was nurtured by amazing, loving Sicilians. He knows what he loves.

I believe that is why so many are attracted to his message and he communicates it so strongly so people, most people, understand that he just truly wishes for their success.

Getting a good head start, like Mark did, I really do believe helps in the quest for “What do I love?”  But mahalo to my husband and other for showing me the number 1 way to find what I love and live my dream.

Here is a video of me back in 2008 when we were on your last vacation to Kauai – in 2010 we moved here to the very spot that I am recording from in Kekaha.

So here it is June 4, 2013 and I’ve been living here in my dream for 3 years!

Number 1 Why To Live You Dream is to live your dream in your imagination, it must be real in your mind before it will become real in your life.  Imagination is the only bridge to enthusiasm (If you put any stock in Einstein) -and that authentic enthusiasm taught me what I really love to do – I found it by taking the time for myself – every day.  It’s 15 minutes a day and the payoff is PRICELESS!

It works – all I did was focus and meditate on what it was that I wanted.  Now do what I tell you and join Go90Grow and take the Think and Grow Rich Bonus course and you’ll have your dream too!

You can do it too!

Mark and Davene in Kauai
Mark and Davene in Kauai

Aloha and Mahalo from Kauai

“The Fabulous” Davene


Someone Told Me This Would Happen

Ranting, that’s what I’ve been doing!

Yesterday and again today.  Does something or someone ever really piss you off!!!  And then you rant, plot revenge, or maybe you’re like me and you just feel so very hurt.

Hurt, after the rant of course, that is what fuels it the pain.

Did you see Good Will Hunting, they say F*@K 143 times in the movie and I think I broke their record.

And it’s so much worse when it’s someone you tried to help….. so much more painful when you had high hopes.  That stab in the back is so much more painful when it’s from someone you thought was a friend.  You know what I means it’s happen to all of us.

This happens to me, well us, Mark and me alot.  And someone told me it would happen.  This man became very public on the internet when the webby was brand new and the same thing happened to him.

I guess people get jealous, or scared that there’s not a big enough pie.  They believe that if I have some pie it’s less for them.  They don’t understand that there is more than enough pie for us all.

So I was ranting and then I remembered this poem “The Penalty of Leadership“.  It really helps me to understand that when we do something with excellence and we’re truly in service some people are going to try and take us down.  Like I said it’s not the first time but it’s OK.   It also helps to remember all the great people who appreciate what we have to offer.

What Mark and I are doing with Go9oGrow and The World’s Laziest Networker sites are a threat to some and a source of envy for others.  Others who don’t want to do the work.

I will not stop, no one will stop me giving away free network marketing skills, tons of them at our site.  And no one will stop me offering the greatest Network Marketing Skills site on the planet.

The Penalty of Leadership

“In every field of human endeavor, he that is first must perpetually live in the white light of publicity.
Whether the leadership be vested in a man or in a manufactured product, emulation and envy are ever at work.
In art, in literature, in music, in industry, the reward and the punishment are always the same. The reward is widespread recognition, the punishment, fierce denial and detraction.
When a man’s work becomes a standard for the whole world, it also becomes a target for the shafts of the envious few.
If his work be merely mediocre, he will be left severely alone — if he achieves a masterpiece, it will set a million tongues a wagging. Jealousy does not protrude its forked tongue at the artist who produces a commonplace painting.

Whatsoever you write, or paint, or play, or sing, or build, no one will strive to surpass or to slander you, unless your work be stamped with the seal of genius.
Long, long after a great work or a good work has been done, those who are disappointed or envious continue to cry out that it cannot be done…
The leader is assailed because he is a leader, and the effort to equal him is merely added proof of that leadership.
Failing to equal or to excel, the follower seeks to depreciate and to destroy — but only confirms once more the superiority of that which he strives to supplant.
There is nothing new in this. It is as old as the world and as old as the human passions — envy, fear, greed, ambition, and the desire to surpass.
And it all avails nothing. If the leader truly leads, he remains — the leader.
Master-poet, master-painter, master-workman, each in his turn is assailed, and each holds his laurels through the ages.
That which is good or great makes itself known, no matter how loud the clamor of denial. That which deserves to live — lives.”

by BJ Palmer


Go90Grow Live Event – Network Marketing Training

Sometimes the most amazing things happen – even if you expected something amazing to happen.

That is what happened to me at the Go90Grow Live Event last week.  An advance Network Marketing Training and Self Improvement Training.

I knew that some amazing things would happen, but really, not this amazing.

Sure, sure it’s Kauai how can it not be amazing. Right? I agree. Such a beautiful and magical island.

This time though I think the people who came for the event brought the magic.Kauai May 2013 093

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It’s a big commitment to come all the way to Kauai from anywhere – we are a rock in the middle of the pacific ocean. So we are proud and impressed by the Go90Growers who got over here for the Go90Grow Live Event.hawaii in the pacific

There were some beautiful connections made, Anthony Carr and Ruben Cezar are two wonderful, gracious, powerful and honorable men who hooked up here but you would have thought they had been friends since forever. Even on the first night these two warriors seemed like old, best friends. Then John and Beth Kennedy got in on their great ideas and shared a mission that is amazing. Now they’re all working toward a mutual DMP.

Steven Koistinen and Jude Davis had a similar connection – these wonderful people would have never met and here they are being in service to each other with no agenda but to help.

Jackie and Chelsea

I realized a dream at the Go90Grow Live Event, that was great Network Marketing Training, yes another dream come true, of having our kids here being a part of Mark and Me doing what we love and having them a part of it. It hit me like a ton of bricks, ya I didn’t realize it until I actually saw these two terrific girls sitting there together helping us run the event. They both did so much to help! I’m so so lucky.

AND to boot – right after the event I booked the ONE-WAY ticket for our daughter Dayna to move here and live here in Kauai. All I do is read my DMP and visualize everyday what I want my life to be and it happens. It happens ever better than I (literally) imagine.

I want all of you to experience your Golden Budda life with me. You can do anything you want with your life, anything!!!



How To Get The LIfe You Always Wanted

How To Get The Life You Always Wanted

I love the magazine headlines, I purchase alot of wellness, health, fitness mags and they ALWAYS have some version of this headline. On Cosmo and Vogue too. They appeal to our slothful nature and tell us there just this 1 little thing we can do and all our dreams will come true.

And we buy it, over and over and over. The self help gurus do it too.

Although I believe their karma is much more dangerous because they are supposed to know better that Madison Avenue.

My genius husband, Mark Januszewski, The World’s Laziest Networker always says, “If it’s SELF help then why are you paying someone ELSE to tell you what to do?” Think about it.

Anyway these silly headlines make me think of all these quotes I get via email and on FB – Here’s one I found today.

I WANT-I WANT-I WANT. Everyday you hear people saying what they want. Well, this is what I want, I want people who are sick to be healed. I want children with no families to be adopted. I want people to never have to worry about food and shelter and heat. Most of all, I would like to see our people start to care for one another. Now let’s see how many people share this.

Now I know the person who posted this and to all appearances there is a decent heart there. There’s nothing wrong with it, as a matter of fact 36K people liked it and shared it.

What’s most unfortunate is that all those people don’t have a clue. We create the life we have, no matter what. It doesn’t matter how much you want people to be happy, healthy and free it’s up to them not you! You just live a good life and set a good example – but I digress.

Here’s what happens. Some of this person’s “FB friends” and the other 36K saw this and commented, and some shared. And here is the tragedy – they will believe that they actually did something.

Here’s what scares me about that and our future – and our unhealthy obsession with Social Media, curse you Zuckerberg (Kidding it’s not his fault).

People really think they are making a difference or doing something productive by posting this bumper sticker crap on FB and whatever social media sites we have let take over our lives. Or if they hit like that they have actually DONE some good in the world.

I am not saying the posting of quotes and and inspiration stuff is bad. I’m saying that if you do that or you like it or share it don’t have a false belief that you have done something that will make any difference in this world.

You have NOT!

All you did was spread a little motivational vapor. And motivation is like a warm bath, it feels really good in the beginning but after 20 minutes all you are doing is sitting in a puddle of cold, dirty water. Motivation and inspiration doesn’t change anything!!! Irritation now that works. The World’s Laziest Networker will tell you, “I don’t believe in motivation, irritation that’s what I believe in.”

If you believe in movitation check this out.

When my mom died suddenly in 1993, at the very young age of 56, so many of her contemporaries said to me. “Your mom’s death has inspired me to change. I’m gonna live more, better, healthier whatever.” Or some version of that.

Guess what none of the did. None. If the sudden and tragic death of a loved one won’t change people do you really believe a quote on FB will?

Here’s what you have to do in order to have the life you’ve always wanted – ACT – do some good, actual good. Now today!

Find out which politicians share your views and vote for them, not just the person with the most ads. Write to your representatives or the White House and tell them how you feel about what’s happening in this country or world. However you may view things.

I don’t believe you have to look past our own neighborhood to make a difference. ACT is what I’m saying. Think Globally if you like, act locally to make a difference.

Do you see someone in your neighborhood struggling. What can you do to be of service? Get creative. Do you know someone at work who could use a leg up. Do you have a classmate who could use a friend. Is there an elderly person who could use a meal, or a errand, or just a smile and a hello. A suffering child – how can you make a real difference in someone’s life. If you’re not comfortable with putting yourself out there (I confess I’m not that great at that) write a check to something you believe in – it can be 5 bucks, just do something!

If the 36K FB people did that instead of just sharing a quote what kind of impact do you think that would have on the world?
Alot of us don’t even say “Hi” to the people who live next door.

How about you just share smile at everyone you see today. Count how many smiles you get back and write me a comment. I really want to know.

Even that seemingly small effort will make a difference in our world, I guarantee.

The Fab Davene