November 19, 2016

Saint Bernard has got the answer

Yep, Saint Bernard has got the answer

Here we are Week 8 of the Master Key Experience.  Yep, Saint Bernard has got the answer and it was shared a few weeks ago in the course.

During the Master Key Experience or Master Key Mastermind Alliance as it’s also known, there are assignments and one of the assignments is to read Ralph Waldo Emerson’s Essay on Compensation. ¬†It’s a tough assignment.

In that essay Emerson quotes Saint Bernard. If one understands¬†this quote fully I believe that it’s the answer to all of anyone’s woes. ¬†But you might not like it.

Here it is.

“Nothing can work me damage except myself, the harm that I sustain I carry about with me and never am a real sufferer but by my own fault” ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†Saint Bernard of Clairvaux
I highly recommend reading that a second time and maybe more.  Saint Bernard has got the answer to all your woes, difficulties, problems, challenges, issues, addictions, etc. etc. etc.

What this Doctor of the Church is saying is that you have to take 100% responsibility for everything in your life!  The good the bad and the ugly.

Read Saint Bernard again, if you want a happier more peaceful and joyous life read it again and this time own it.

If you hate your job, if you are unhappy in your relationship, if you don’t have a job, if you are alone, if your kids are driving you crazy, if you are sick, if you are really sick, if you are hurt, if someone broke your heart, if someone wronged you, if someone stole from you, hurt your family, if you’ve been devastated by a loss, and I could go on and on and on.

If there is anything, anything at all in your life that you don’t like or want there it’s your fault! ¬†And if there are things in your life you love then that’s your fault too! ¬†The good, the bad and the ugly all your responsibility 100%.


It’s up to you to do something about¬†anything that’s in your life you don’t want there.

I hated my job so I buckled down for 2 solid years, made big sacrifices, and worked as hard as I could to make enough to leave that horrible job!  And now I work for myself.

My dgdaynaaughter was running wild and I was terrified something would happen to her. ¬†So I threw her out and said, ¬†“If you want to act that way you are on your own”. ¬†That was a daily siege but I had to do it. ¬†Now she is the number 3 power in our company. ¬†She’s awesome and mostly Dayna is her own person and doesn’t care about what other people think. ¬†I love that about her.

Now I’m not saying that I’m responsible for the person she is now, but there was no way that I was going to teach my daughter that it was OK to behave badly and not pay the consequences of those actions. ¬†Life doesn’t work that way.

As difficult as it was to watch my beloved daughter live in a dangerous situation I knew it was better than allowing her to disrespected me because that was teaching her not to respect herself and I was not going to do that, no way.

Many people hurt me bad, some family, real bad when I was little and I had no choice then. ¬†But I’m a grown up now and I choose to forgive them for they know not what they did, that is my choice and I move on. ¬†And that’s that!

The ones that hurt me after I was grown, well I take responsibility for that – I choose to be in relationship with them so it’s on me.

I got sick, real sick. ¬†Had to have an operation – but now I eat differently, I exercise, I drink lots of water, avoid processed foods, no GMOs, no doctors, organic, love myself and my future self, and I take care of myself body, mind and soul. ¬†So now I’m healthy. ¬†Blessed to be so healthy after what I’ve done to my poor faithful self ¬†ūüôā

Well mostly healthy, still have to step up and do better for myself there. ¬†What I’m saying is if you are sick it’s you who made you sick. ¬†Now you say what if little kids and babies are sick – did they make themselves sick. ¬†Yes – period. ¬†Yes they did I don’t know how but I know for sure that the subconscious mind, once set on something, can do anything including make one¬†sick.

But guess what, it can make you well too!

I could go on and on and on with any example. ¬†You’re lonely and alone – then get out there a meet people and find out why, maybe, people don’t like you – ask someone who knows you to honesty tell you what it is that puts people off. ¬†Why can’t I find someone to share my time with. ¬†Do something! ¬†Don’t just sit in an unsatisfying life and blame¬†anyone but yourself!

I have a very close friend who is alone, and lonely but he knows it’s his doing. ¬†He’s not ready or it’s not worth it to him to find someone. ¬†But he’s not pissing and moaning about it he knows it’s his responsibility to make himself happy if he wants to be happy.

Get up and take responsibility for yourself, your joy, your bliss, your peace, your happiness. ¬†Even if it is scary and hurts its better that being unhappy. ¬†Trust me it’s better.

Now if you don’t like all this that I am writing there is a reason for that…

Mahalo & Aloha ~ I love you, and I suggest you do also!

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Saint Bernard has got the answer

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